A question I frequently get regarding my upcoming ultra (which serves as the launch for Sisu not Silence – a global movement to end the silence around interpersonal violence) revolves around the choice of location. “Why New Zealand?” One well-meaning person even commented, “Why not run across Australia”. Probably because I want to live to tell the story perhaps (yup, I draw the line to 1,500 miles).
The original reason for choosing to run the length of this particular country is quite more emotion and intuition based than I would perhaps like to admit. I’ve always felt a strong gravitational pull toward New Zealand, a sense of connection, and I call it my second home after Finland.As weird synapses and functionings of the mind would have it, back in 2010 I remember getting this crazy thought that one day I want to return to NZ and run the country from
As weird synapses and functionings of the mind would have it, back in 2010 after having overcome a violent relationship, I remember having this mind-bending thought that one day I’d want to return to NZ and run the country from coast to coast. The reason for this run would be to help break the silence around interpersonal violence globally, support us survivors and promote a culture of zero tolerance for any kind of abuse.
Aristotle once said: “The soul never thinks without a picture.” And sure enough, I carried this dream in my heart long enough and finally, at the end of last year, I said ‘yes’ to it. It’s the scariest challenge I have voluntarily chosen to take part in so far. It required me to prioritize and choose what I really want. I called the co-founder of my then start up the next week and told him I’d have to go on this journey, and that it would require my full attention from inception to finish. The project involves not only the training but also the planning, organizing, media and fundraising activities. It’s a handful. I didn’t want to just run across, I wanted this to be something that adds value, transforms the narratives around interpersonal violence and inspires a broad global conversation about a topic that is surrounded by so much silence and shaming.
But back to the serendipity of choosing my mountains. Domestic violence (DV) is an epidemic that impacts every nation, culture, social class, income group, gender and so on. It is one of the most pervasive yet under-recognized human rights issues in the world and affects hundreds of millions of individuals across the globe each year. One in every four women and one in every seven men according to WHO. Every year, 270 million children are also exposed to violence in their homes. You can just imagine the amount of (totally unnecessary) human suffering and negative ripples this causes on the broad systemic level. My thinking was that New Zealand is most likely no safer of a haven for families compared many other countries, but back then even I did not predict how fitting my decision to run there would turn out to be.
This week, my new Kiwi friend Avril McDonald, the founder of Feel Brave, pointed out a groundbreaking family violence awareness campaign spearheaded by the New Zealand Herald, the country’s largest newspaper. The campaign is called #WeAreBetterThanThis as was launched in response to statistics indicating that New Zealand leads in the prevalence of family violence. Naturally, it does not matter which country is better or worse (in the emotional or physical suffering the is no measure, it’s all equally painful with each story adding to the collective trauma of our humanity) but the statistics tell a sad story, which makes me feel even more connected to my cause, if possible.
Speaking of my native country, Finland, a woman there is twice as likely to experience interpersonal violence than elsewhere in Europe. However, these two countries share also something else in common, something that is historically significant, empowering and hope-giving. These two small, remote nations once led the women’s suffrage, being the first two countries in the world to allow women equal right vote. Therefore, they were at the frontier of building equality, creating opportunities, and basically manufacturing freedom.
I now want these two countries, both of which I consider my home, to lead the way to break the silence around family violence, therefore enabling the creation of futures that are safer and more enabling of human flourishing, and to foster a global culture with ZERO tolerance for abuse of any kind.
We simply can’t afford not to give this issue all we’ve got.